Blogging - Taking me away from the dark side of life.

9:30:00 AM Ayesha Farhad 33 Comments


Can I just put a disclaimer first? Blogging is not just rainbows and butterflies like many people think. We don't just get to sit home and write, take pictures and use free products. Well we do. But there is hard work involved. Background pictures, investing in backgrounds, good lightening, taking pictures, building your website, interacting with other bloggers, finish off meetings and lots more! And if you are a parent blogger, you need to juggle the children, their food, their tantrums, playing with them and doing your work on the side that sods off till they are in bed. And while I am typing, my little one is wiping his nose with my shirt and demanding that I let him drink my RedBull.

So since my blog turns a year old this month, I can not contain my happiness. With blogging, as cliched as it sounds, I have re-discovered myself and I know what to make a career out of. I never really got to work before my marriage. Right off from my university to marriage. And being a housewife although majorly my choice, I wanted financial freedom. I tried getting into a few makeup classes so i could purse a career as a makeup artist. but well, that went down the drain. Thought of taking up teaching, but then I had my own child to handle.

A whole year later, after battling post-partum depression on my own and continuously fighting with my husband, I decided to start my blog as a hobby. To keep me away from evil thoughts all the time. But because I was travelling so much and I never knew about blogger support groups and the know how of blogging, that got left in between. Come 2016, I decided to take blogging seriously. I knew if I could stick to blogging, I wouldn't worry about other things as much.

So I took things slowly. And although I initially started my blog as a parenting blog, my first post up was a fashion haul. Just a quick reality check: VERY few people from your friends and family are going to support you because they do not see blogging as a full time job. They think that you just have to sit down and write. So you have to stick up for yourself and do what you love. Slowly and gradually I started gathering readers. Even if there were only 10 views a month, I had faith in myself.

I never stuck to one single niche on my blog. I know many bloggers tell you to stick to one niche but I was never that kind of person. I wanted to do everything on my own! So my blog covers everything. From beauty, fashion, lifestyle, parenting and food. Do what you like and do what you want. Also, when I first started blogging, I used to compare myself to SO many bloggers. Literally, me, a newbie, used to compare myself to bloggers that have been working since a minimum of three years. Don't ever do that if you plan to take up blogging. You are only going to ruin your day and your faith in the work you do.

Blogging has truly built up my confidence. I look at myself as a completely new person. It has taken away half of my anxious state and I am more aware of how to approach people and brands. I have an open mind. I know how to juggle family and work. I have my own financial independence, even though its literally compared to nothing but at least I have those few pounds in my hands. My husband looks at me in a different light. He knows that I don't sit and laze around the house all day. There is a new found respect in our relationship. Blogging has helped me with my anxiety so much. I used to stutter with nervousness while talking to strangers and friends and it has all but gone away.

So this year, I thank the Lord for blessing me with the idea of blogging. For helping me to find a way out when I was on the edge to call blogging quits. This year, cheers to blogging and to all the bloggers that have helped me reach where I am. Thank you.

33 comments:

  1. Blogging is such a personal experience! It's great that you've found peace with blogging x

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  2. People just think it's about free products or experiences! I wish they could understand how much hard work is involved in it, and yes - especially if you're a mum!

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  3. I think blogging is a great platform for all kinds of reasons. A place to have your own voice. And such a positive thing when it helps you cope with life, The Universe and everything!

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  4. Personally, I find that blogging can help with confidence mainly because it lets you get things off your chest in your own way.

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  5. Love this. I also don't have one main niche, I love having the freedom to write about whatever I feel is relevant at the time x

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  6. Congrats on your blog birthday and clearly being strong. thanks for sharing : x

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  7. Blogging can be such a great experience, but it is a personal one. You have to do what makes you happy and what works for you. Happy Blog Birthday!

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  8. Happy one year of blogging! Your post motivated me to kick start my long lost blog.
    Keep it up. Good luck.

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  9. Congratulations on a year of blogging! I have been blogging for three years and it has changed my life. Kaz

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  10. Blogging can be such hard work I don't think many people who font blog realise his much goes into it. Happy one year of blogging

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  11. The dark side of blogging is when you encounter the snobs who think they are better then anyone else.

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  12. It is so true blogging can change your life and help you feel happier. You should be very proud for reaching a year and being able to become a success x

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  13. Congrats on the one year blog anniversary! And so glad to hear how blogging has helped you x

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  14. I'm so glad blogging has had such a positive effect on you, it's nice that people can find solace in it x

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  15. Wow. I really admire your hold on things, and yeah... I know quite well how others seem to think blogging is like a waste of time and just another escape. My husband doesn't believe in it before, but recently he announced he is considering to blog himself.

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  16. I started my blog 2 months ago so I hope I will be feeling the same as you in 10 months time. Good for you for finding something that works for you!

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  17. I love this! Congrats! I love blogging too and have been craving the chance to take it to the next level but had so many doubts. I love that you did it. Maybe I can too! :)

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  18. You are inspiring me to start a blog as well but it requires soooo much hardwork. Kudos to you for doing it!

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  19. Congrats on reaching a year old....and I agree...never compare yourself to those that have been doing it for a number of years

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  20. its beautiful to know what blogging has done for you. well done :D inspiring!

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  21. I love how blogging help you and I am sorry about your post-partum depression. Hopefully you are all well now. Having your husband around and supporting you is another thing to be thankful for. Enjoy blogging and an inspiration to others.

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  22. Congrats on a year of blogging. I'm like you, I like to write about anything that interests me and I also found having something to focus on helped with my non diagnosed PND when my son was younger.

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  23. Lovely words and like you I feel like a new person starting my blog. Congratulations on 1 year X X

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  24. I am sorry you struggled with PP depression. I did too, and it's tough. I started my blog in 2012/13 for similar reasons and I am so glad I did.

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  25. It's wonderful that blogging has done this for you, so glad you're hear you're doing better x

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  26. Blogging is very much a full time job and sometimes it's hard not to compare yourself to other bloggers , thanks for sharing your experience very inspiring and insightful article

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  27. Fab post! Happy first birthday to your blog too. Celebrate your milestone! x

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  28. I could not agree more! Blogging has helped with my depression, my confidence and definitely my attitude. I have met so many wonderful people through it and I give thanks that I ever started mine x

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  29. Wow! I wish blogging had helped with my anxiety too! Well, it has in a sense. It gives me something to focus on and be proud of, but the social anxiety, not so much.

    I have such a huge respect for Mums who blog. I don't know how you guys do it with kids running around! Congrats on your Blog-iversary!

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  30. What a lovely positive story - blogging really can provide the support we need in such a flexible way. It's definitely not all about freebies!

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  31. blogging has helped so many people, it helped myself get over a break up xo

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  32. Happy bloggoversary! My blog started as a welcome distraction too. It is my happy place 5 years later I still enjoy escaping to my little corner of cyber space.

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  33. You've done a great job for only a year of blogging. Keep going, hun xx

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