A Welcome Or A Worry? Hello Baby!

25 May Ayesha Farhad 0 Comments

Giving birth can be one of the most frightening and one of the most beautiful moments of your life. You can spend nine months doing everything right for your unborn child but still panic that there won’t be a happy ending. Labour is so painful and so intense it’s no wonder your mind lets you fear the worst. Those few moments of silence when Bubba is out but not yet crying are the longest and scariest of them all.

Is He OK?

Of course, even when your little one is demonstrating a vocal range beyond anything you could imagine, you can still worry something is wrong. You count the fingers and toes, check your baby is making eye contact with you, and watch the doctor’s expression for any giveaway that she is worried. Thankfully, the vast majority of births are safe, and everyone is well.

And So It Begins

Then, of course, parenting begins. Now your worries turn to your abilities. Can you really do this? Will you ever learn to get a nappy on right? What if you can’t breastfeed? What if my baby stops breathing? No wonder we can’t sleep as new mums! Family support is so important here. Even if you’re not a huge fan of your mum-in-law, you will suddenly find her to be the most knowledgeable and helpful person on the planet.

Staying Calm

For your sake and for the sake of your baby, it’s so important not to become flustered. Your baby doesn’t mind that you’re feeling pretty clueless right now. And their natural instincts will eventually figure out the whole nursing thing, even if it feels like the strangest thing in the world to you. As for sleeping? If you’re relaxed and rested, your baby will have a better chance at relaxing and resting too. Crying is what they do best. You would hear the difference between distress and tiredness if something truly was wrong.


Yes, there is a lot of guesswork in those early days, especially when you’re exhausted and can’t think straight. Some new mums are so nervous they don’t want lots of visitors around until they’ve figured out what they’re doing themselves. None of the grandparents or your experienced siblings expect you to know anything. In fact, they’ll probably love that you’re clueless so they can impart all their pearls of wisdom. Just this once, indulge them. Any hints and tips can be helpful. The ones you’re not keen on you can ignore.


Regardless of faith, culture, and personal preferences, all families want to officially welcome a newborn into the world. Sometimes there are gender-specific ceremonies that can take place. At the end of the day, you are the mumma. The choices that are out there don’t have to be the ones you select. You can go with the traditions from your family background. Or you can pick and choose from any others that suit you, your partner, and your ideals for bringing up your child.

Most family members will want to bring gifts. Silver is an important alloy for many faiths and cultures. Gifts of silver for the baby, like these christening gifts, are often presented at a special ceremony. This ceremony often welcomes your baby into your community, your family, and your faith. You might formally name your child and select the adults you choose to support and nurture them during their early years. This event can be a big party attended by family and friends. There might be food and even alcoholic beverages to toast the baby and the parents. Of course, the baby will never remember this, so make sure you’re selecting the options that suit you as much as your baby.

There are some legal requirements to consider in the first few days of birth. The register office is often the best place to legally announce your newcomer. A first name and a surname will need to be selected. It is common practice to name the father as well as the mother on this birth certificate too. There is often a fee for this. Some hospitals provide this service if you’re staying on the ward for a while. Additional copies of the certificate can also be purchased if needed.

Your maternity ward will also help you complete the paperwork necessary for monitoring your little one when you’re ready to go home. Midwives can then come to your home to check your health and ensure your little one continues to progress as expected. Some mums leave the ward within a few hours of giving birth. Others prefer to stay so they can receive the help and support from the nurses and midwives. You can always go back on the ward at any time after the birth if you prefer. It could be ideal if you need a bit of a rest.


The worrying part never goes away. You’re a mummy now! You’ll always want to wrap your little one up in cotton wool and protect him from everything. Your heart will be in your mouth when they start to roll over, sit up, toddle, and climb the stairs. Don’t worry though. You may think you’ll never sleep again, but you’ll soon relax into this role - even if you are operating on high alert most of the time! You’ll worry when relatives are holding your baby. You’ll be concerned when there are dogs or boisterous children around. And the day your baby has a baby will no doubt leave you writhing with worry for them too!

Times are worrying in our world at the moment. You may fear for your child’s future growing up in such uncertainty. Your parents went through it, and your grandparents before them. Aim to show your baby the beauty and the wonder in the world. Let them meet the people in it and be part of the communities that care. When you’re welcoming another life into the world, you shouldn’t have to be a worry, but it’s perfectly natural that you do. Enjoy those little moments of joy.