Don’t Let Becoming Parents Suck the Romance Out of Your Life.

25 May Ayesha Farhad 0 Comments

Yes, yes, there’s no doubt that when a baby arrives, he or she needs to be the priority in your life. New parents are always surprised by just how much work has to go into looking a freshly born human, but that’s the way it goes. It’ll get easier in time! However, as hard as it may be, it’s important that you endeavor to keep the romance alive in your life. Doing so will make it all the easier to reconnect properly when you don’t have a baby to look after all day, every day!

Baby’s Asleep

Baby’s are hard work. There’s the crying, the changes, the making sure they’re safe and sound...but they also sleep quite a lot. When they're put to bed for the night, make sure you’re taking the time to have some precious time with your partner. It might be tempting to fall asleep yourself, but even taking 10 minutes to talk about each other’s day can help keep the connection intact.

Make a Date

You won’t have spent much time thinking about yourself over the past few months, but there’ll come a time when you’ll be able to spend some quality alone with your partner, away from home. Ask yourself ‘how can I find a babysitter at’ and book a reservation for dinner at one of your favorite restaurants. This will give the time you need to really spend some quality time together, without the threat of a crying baby in the room!

Keep Romance In Your Mind

You never when you’ll have time for yourself. You’re on constant baby watch, but they don’t need monitoring all the time. When they’re settled, you can start planning a special romantic treat for your partner. You know what they like, so make that the theme of the surprise. Even small gestures can go a long way to keeping the romance alive! Essentially, it’s all about keeping romance loosely at the back of your mind. Keep it there, and it’ll never be too far away from your relationship!

You’re Not Parents; You’re You!

You’ve adopted a new persona since you’ve had a baby. You’re no longer just Jennifer or Mark (/your name…), you are: PARENTS. This is what you need to be, but only most of the time. If the baby is resting and you’re hanging out with your partner, make sure you’re reverting to the person they fell in love: which is to say, you! You can be your normal self when the baby’s not around and is taken care of.

Staying a Team

Nothing will kill the romance in a relationship than unnecessary bickering. It’s not easy being a parent, but you shouldn’t let this turn into a rivalry with your partner. Some parents are good at one thing; some are good at others. It’ll all even itself out eventually, so don’t nitpick if you think you’re doing more than they are. Stay a team and romance will be on its way back for good soon!