10 questions to ask on a first date.

25 August Ayesha Farhad 21 Comments

I will give you this. Good people are hard to come around. And especially people who are driven in life and have some motivation. There are times when you want to be with someone but then you think about going on dates and meeting new people and that just turns you off really bad. You might not be a conversation starter but there are a few questions that you can always ask on your first date or if you are meeting someone for a potential rishta.

1. Who is the biggest influence in your life? This question generally tells a lot about a person and the influence they live in. Although if you are a South-Asian and the biggest influence in your date's life is their mother, RUN.

2. One challenge you had to overcome and how did you achieve that? Not only will this help you tell your date's ability to handle situations but will also help you analyse their motivation in life.

3. Two items on your bucket list that you know that you can tick off? This will help you know what goals they have in life and how comfortably they can fulfil their aspirations!

4. What is the most interesting place you have been to? If you like travelling, you will get to know about your dates goals about travelling and the type of places they like to visit. Full moon parties in Thailand every few months are just ridiculous!

5. Biggest regret in life? If your date answers this question, know that they have they have faced loss and regret in life yet had the ability to move up and carry on with their situation.

6. What is something that takes up most of your time except work or best way to spend your time? You get to know what they enjoy the most after work and whether you find it in your interests or not.

7. One strength that you look in a relationship? If his answer is trust/respect, it's cringe-worthy! Trust is the base of EVERY & ANY relationship. And you should respect every human being no matter what their relationship to you is. Things like the ability to motivate each other in life, working together to create harmony or general lifestyle goals should be the strength of a relationship.

8. Genuine things that make you laugh? This will help you establish your connection with their personality. If your date loves the same things as you do, I am sure you both will get on very well.

9. What is the best compliment that you have ever received? Not only will this show their mental capacity, you will know what they like to be complimented upon.

10. What do you look for in people? People generally look for genuinely in others. To actively look what they desire in other people will help you create a connection with this but also how they perceive life and situations to be.

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Now obviously every body has different date experiences and they have different things to ask. But if you are looking for a serious relationship or if you are meeting your potential rishta aka to-be-husband/wife, these things really do matter. To know what they aspire, what they regret and what mental compatibility you have with them in order to have a serious relationship with them. You get to know where they come from and what influences them the most.

21 comments:

  1. No first date for me anymore. These are great conversation starters

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  2. You offer a great list of questions to ask. Thank goodness that I am married and no longer dating!

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  3. I'm not saying that these questions are not valid but I think that then it becomes like a job interview and if you want to enjoy each other on the first, maybe start with one and let it flow naturally.

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  4. I think the questions are interesting and will lead to a real conversation. But I doubt that I will be able to ask it on first date.

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  5. Great conversation starters, but asking too many of these win make it an interview, not a date. And probably create a not very good impression of the one asking the questions...

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  6. I agree that these are thought-provoking questions but maybe one or two would be enough for a first date.

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  7. This is a great list, I remember it being really hard to think of what to stay when you are meeting a new person.

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  8. These are a great set of questions but I think it would be nice to use 2-3 questions from your list then let the conversation flow on its own steady pace. It's would be weird if you were too straightforward on your first date.

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  9. I am loving these questions! First dates are always nerve-wracking, so it's good to have some questions in mind!

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  10. What I would really like to ask is, "Did you bring references I can check? You know I am going to check out your references."

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  11. I'm single and not looking but if the opportunity presents itself, I need to have your list handy. I think I'll print it out just in case I need it lol.

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  12. Dating can be fun, but definitely quite the learning curve. It's really important to start open communication on a date and finding out real answers to questions such as this. I love the biggest regret part, definitely an eye opener.

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  13. Wow! These are great questions! I think it is a great way to get to know someone.

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  14. These are great conversation starters! First dates can be sort of awkward or stressful but these definitely help!

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  15. My friend just started dating again. I will have to share this post with her. These are all great questions to ask on a first date.

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  16. I think it would be interesting to hear some of the things on a date's bucket list. I think that it says a lot about a person and their future aspirations.

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  17. I met my husband on online dating, after a LOT of bad dates haha. It would have been good to have some of these questions! When you meet online, you totally don't know anything about the other person. It's important to talk a lot to learn about them.

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  18. I am celebrating 28 years of marriage and these are awesome questions for the hubs. I love great conversation. You are blessed to have great questions

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  19. I really enjoy talking about travels, this is where I get to know my date even better.

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  20. Oh, I remember my first date but we were too young then, and of course all we did was to stare at the waves on the beach and feel the cool breeze.

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  21. I think that is a great way of decoding whether someone might be your perfect match It did make me laugh when you said Although if you are a South-Asian and the biggest influence in your date's life is their mother, RUN.Haha so true amen to that x

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