10 questions to ask on a first date.

I will give you this. Good people are hard to come around. And especially people who are driven in life and have some motivation. There are times when you want to be with someone but then you think about going on dates and meeting new people and that just turns you off really bad. You might not be a conversation starter but there are a few questions that you can always ask on your first date or if you are meeting someone for a potential rishta.


1. Who is the biggest influence in your life? This question generally tells a lot about a person and the influence they live in. Although if you are a South-Asian and the biggest influence in your date's life is their mother, RUN.

2. One challenge you had to overcome and how did you achieve that? Not only will this help you tell your date's ability to handle situations but will also help you analyse their motivation in life.

3. Two items on your bucket list that you know that you can tick off? This will help you know what goals they have in life and how comfortably they can fulfil their aspirations!

4. What is the most interesting place you have been to? If you like travelling, you will get to know about your dates goals about travelling and the type of places they like to visit. Full moon parties in Thailand every few months are just ridiculous!

5. Biggest regret in life? If your date answers this question, know that they have they have faced loss and regret in life yet had the ability to move up and carry on with their situation.

6. What is something that takes up most of your time except work or best way to spend your time? You get to know what they enjoy the most after work and whether you find it in your interests or not.

7. One strength that you look in a relationship? If his answer is trust/respect, it's cringe-worthy! Trust is the base of EVERY & ANY relationship. And you should respect every human being no matter what their relationship to you is. Things like the ability to motivate each other in life, working together to create harmony or general lifestyle goals should be the strength of a relationship.

8. Genuine things that make you laugh? This will help you establish your connection with their personality. If your date loves the same things as you do, I am sure you both will get on very well.

9. What is the best compliment that you have ever received? Not only will this show their mental capacity, but you will also know what they like to be complimented upon.

10. What do you look for in people? People generally look for genuinely in others. To actively look what they desire in other people will help you create a connection with this but also how they perceive life and situations to be.

Now obviously everybody has different date experiences and they have different things to ask. But if you are looking for a serious relationship or if you are meeting your potential rishta aka to-be-husband/wife, these things really do matter. To know what they aspire, what they regret and what mental compatibility you have with them in order to have a serious relationship with them. You get to know where they come from and what influences them the most.